IT IS NOT WHAT YOU SAY, BUT HOW YOU SAY IT!
Hey, my friend. This is Prof. Gleidson Poney! I hope you are having an amazing week so far. This post will match a little bit of what we talked about last week. If you didn't take a look at our blog post last week, CLICK HERE to better understand where we are about to go! Like we said, “everything is ENERGY.”
What we say is also energy, and our words are one of the great superpowers we have. We can use our words to bless and say good things or the opposite. At the end of the day, directly or indirectly, it is our choice.
I’m at a point in my life where I’m very proud of myself for how much I’ve grown in many different areas. Especially when I look at the human relations in my life, I recognize I still have a long way to go. But when I compare who I was to who I am today, it makes me very happy.
Who has never said something bad to someone or listened to something terrible from someone? When we look at human interactions, we have potential to say bad things in a good way or good things in a bad way. That’s what we will go over to understand that it is not what I say but how I say it that will make a difference in other people's lives.
One really common complaint from wives all over the world is that their husbands are rude in the way that they talk to them. Personally, that is one thing that I have been pushing myself to improve more and more, and I feel I have improved a lot. Remember, it is not what I am saying but how I say it that will make a difference. I was thinking, “Will the person like it if I say all the terrible things that I need but in a good way?” I thought about it, but I can’t see it going well. I’m pretty sure NO ONE will like this approach. Is that right?! In my opinion, we can criticize in a good way but there is one thing we must do as human beings: Before you throw what you think and want to say at the world and other people, have some empathy. You don’t know how things are going on the other side, (IN OTHER PEOPLE’S HEARTS) and empathy is one thing our society is losing more and more every day. This is sad, but I still believe we can make things better. This is one reason that I invest this time here with you. Again, thanks for reading!
Studying this topic more and more, we will see we have two ways to communicate in our humans relations:
Interpersonal communication: it is the relationship between people, characterized through the events or happenings that take place at home, school, company, church, etc.
Intrapersonal communication: it is the communication we have with ourselves. It's the inner dialogue. Examples: prayer, meditation, etc.
Both are very important!!! I really believe that the healthier our intrapersonal communication is the better our interpersonal communication will be. But, for us to grow in this area, we need to confront ourselves and FIGHT - FIGHT THE REAL FIGHT!
The book of Colossians 4:6 says:
“Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
Meditate on that. I want to invite you to meditate with me on the part where our conversation needs to be “SEASONED WITH SALT.” I’ve talked about salt before on this blog and here we go again. We need salt to season our food. The cool thing about salt is this: if we don’t use enough, the food won’t be good. On the other hand, if we use too much, the food won’t be good. For the food to be good, we need to be precise with the salt. Of course what we say is important, but how we say it is also very important.
Base on that, I would like to challenge you to look into yourself with love. Thinking of the human relations that matter to you, question yourself:
Who is someone that could have been let down by something you said?
How could you have expressed yourself differently?
What can you say right now to fix this relationship?
What are the attitudes and actions that you want to have from now on?
How do you think this relationship will be with this person if things got fixed?
Using these questions, I invite you to dive into yourself and start this confrontation. My goal here is to help you help yourself. No one else can do this work for you - Remember that!
Thanks for your time here with me. I hope this message finds your heart and you receive this with a lot of love. I love your life.
I would like to invite you to take a different look at yourself and give yourself an opportunity to start your life transformation. That does not mean it looks bad, but I guarantee you that we always can get better.
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